Arliss Dudley-Cash, The Power of Self-Love in Building a Successful Business – InnovaBuzz 452
Arliss Dudley Cash, Soullutions by Arliss
In this episode, I’m really excited to have as my guest, Arliss Dudley-Cash of Soullutions by Arliss, an inspirational speaker and self-love movement leader, and Winner of the Best Presentation Award by the International Women’s Leadership and Empowerment Conference, Business and Body Positivity Coach.
With a background in business, neuroscience, and forensics, Arliss’ career expands over several industries including operations management, research scientist, and death investigation. She unites this eclectic background with her personal journey to overcome the odds and survive a terminal diagnosis. Her awarding winning presentations include topics on extreme self-love and body positivity. She is passionate about helping her clients to become powerful joyful authentic business owners experiencing freedom, having a lot more fun in their business, and each of us becoming the loves of our lives!
In our discussion, Arliss talked to me about:
- The impact of our thoughts on our health and wellbeing
- How to practice self-love and elevate our self-esteem
- Starting any feedback or review with what worked well first and celebrating that
Diana Gremillion in episode 432 introduced us to Arliss.
Listen to the podcast to find out more.
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Show Notes from this episode with Arliss Dudley-Cash of Soullutions by Arliss
Key points and takeaways from this episode include:
- Self-love is the pathway to success in business and personal life.
- Decision-making and motivation are keys to success in business.
- Frontostriatal circuits are neural pathways in the brain that have been shown to code for self-esteem and self-love. These are one of the strongest pathways that code for motivation, reward, and decision-making.
- When we choose negative emotions, shaming, and blaming, we are cutting ourselves off at the knees as far as reaching the success that we have the potential to reach.
- Think of one area in your business where you criticize yourself and try to think back to the first time you criticized yourself in that area. Challenge yourself to try to love yourself or that area. Be supportive of yourself in making that change and see how fast it resolves.
- Self-love and self-care start with the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness is becoming aware of what your thoughts are.
- Slowing down is a key component of mindfulness. It’s important to slow down in order to notice when a negative thought or process is happening.
- Stop catastrophizing and expecting the worst when you can either plan for things to be neutral or expect the best. You are more likely to see positive outcomes when you start to expect the best of things.
- It is not the outcomes that make the big difference but the lens through which you are looking at the world.
- You are more likely to notice positive outcomes when they happen by changing your perspective to something neutral or positive.
- When you’re too focused on being critical of yourself even though you have achieved your goal, you may only see things that you could do better next time. Doing that over and over lets you lose your motivation each time.
- Celebrating achievements allow our motivation to grow.
- Celebrate what worked really well first. Practice the pause and then go over what could be different for the next time.
- There’s a reason why everything happens the way it does. There will be no learning moments and we won’t be able to help someone else if we’re perfect all the time. We can’t teach if we can’t learn ourselves.
- Having the ability to look back and analyse how something could be done better is a gift. It’s an opportunity to show other people how to do it too because you’ve got the skill.
- Be more mindful of the thoughts that pass through your mind and the words that come through your mouth especially about the things that you say to yourself in a neutral way, not in a judgemental way. Be curious about your thoughts and what you are saying.
- Start looking at yourself in the mirror and say positive words to yourself every morning, including “I love you”. There is far more power in looking at yourself in the eye and your brain hearing those words than anything you could buy or any program you could do for self-love.
- Record yourself saying positive affirmations to yourself and listen to it. Our brains love our voices. Speaking positive words to yourself in your own voice whilst looking at yourself is one of the most powerful things you could ever do.
- Speaking positively about ourselves supports our ability to withstand diseases and live a long life.
- Empathy is key in growing a team and connecting with clients. It allows more valuable and authentic connection to individuals that a leader is trying to interact with. It creates a level of trust and loyalty that is important in team building.
- You can practice empathy by pretending that you are that other person.
- Ask for feedback. It’s important to always have a place to ask for feedback because your team or clients will give you the information that you need in order to make changes and create better outcomes in the future.
- Feedback pulls you into how the people in your team are thinking and feeling about the experience that they are having in a change or in a project.
- There’s nothing wrong with being seen as weak. It is far stronger and braver to be honest about the ways that we have room to grow and learn than to pretend that we don’t.
- Talking about your team is powerful because it shows other business owners that having support and acknowledging that support is something to celebrate.
- Practice saying “thank you” instead of moving praise away. The next time you receive a compliment, try not to explain it away in any way and just say, “thank you”. If it is information that is really supportive of your team, share it with them and invite them to say “thank you” as well. By accepting the praise and being thankful for it, you are able to pass it down the line. It’s a way of giving longevity to the praise.
- Celebrate what worked first before looking at ways to make it better.
- Start with gratitude for how the situation is currently whenever you’re looking at making a change. Gratitude enables us to open ourselves from a place of wholeheartedness and positivity instead of trying to make the change from negative motivation.
The Buzz – Our Innovation Round
Here are Arliss’ answers to the questions of our innovation round. Listen to the conversation to get the full scoop.
- #1 thing to be more innovative – Spend more time in quietness. Innovations are more likely to come to us when we allow our brains to rejuvenate.
- Best thing for new ideas – Having a good sounding board. We don’t create ideas in a vacuum. It’s important to voice them out into the world.
- Favourite tool for innovation – Scheduling. It’s a super power that can really unlock things in business.
- Keep project/client on track – Clear communication and setting expectations around communication from the very beginning.
- Differentiate – Focus on what’s really true for you. Authenticity and vulnerability will differentiate you from anyone else right off the bat. Just be yourself.
To Be a Leader
Be gentle with yourself. We all came into this world knowing unconditional self-love. It’s not something that you have to learn from scratch. It’s already within you and you just have to start it up again. Start small and be gentle with yourself.
You can reach out and thank Arliss through her website.
Arliss suggested we have a conversation with author, speaker, coach, and digital nomad, Lynn Howard. So Lynn, keep an eye on your inbox for an invitation from us to the InnovaBuzz Podcast, courtesy of Arliss Dudley-Cash.
Click here to reserve your spot for Arliss’ Build Your Business with Soul Coaching Program.
Cool Things About Arliss
- She has an MBA from the University of the People, a Masters Degree in Neuroscience from the University of Iowa, and an Inner MBA from Sounds True University.
- She’s currently pursuing a Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification at Sounds True University
- She has three chihuahuas – Tonks, Moony, and Fluffy.